Rejection

 Are people rejecting people? Does a perfect stranger judge and reject me based on my clothes? My weight? My smile?






Do I have to strap on a suit of imaginary armor to protect myself from them? From you?

Am I rejecting myself when I search through my closet in the morning desperately trying to decide what to wear? Or perhaps I'm rejecting my clothes? Or my taste in clothes? Or is it my body and how I think I look in those clothes? Am I trying to be something I'm not when I wear a fancy dress and high heels? Or perhaps I'm trying to disguise my femininity and try not to be seen when I wear jeans and a ball cap? Maybe I'm wearing a ball cap because my I'm having a lousy hair day and I don't want to be rejected?!?

Deep breath, sigh.  I'm dressed. Next step leaving the house. Well, I feel great, I look great. Today is a great hair day, my face has no pimples and my new $37 lip gloss pumps up my tired lips so I feel uber sexy :) Wait is that possible? Can a lip gloss make a person feel sexy, or is it the perception of how you think others will view you that actually makes you feel sexy?
Who cares! I feel sexy! Ok so chin up, shoulders back, smile and go! ( I think I do care though...)

I feel so great so why is that lady dissing me?  Why did that woman just ignore my genuine smile at her? Why is that woman in the car next to me at the light looking at me like I'm nuts? Am I nuts? I am I not supposed to sing in the car?

Hello  :) I say to the man pumping gas next to me in the Costco line.... he looks down at his feet awkwardly and acts as if he didn't hear me... is he rejecting me? Is he deaf? Am I nuts?

I get to the office and I'm relieved! People I know people who say hello! Hello I say with a big smile :)
"What are you so happy about?" Says the lady behind the desk. I'm speechless.... Am I nuts?

Moral of the story here... it's not me it's them! It's not you it's them! I am not nuts! And if I am, I'm happy! No one is rejecting us, they are rejecting themselves. They are so deeply unhappy or full of fear or insecure about themselves that they simply don't know how to be any other way. For now.

Be you. Be the person you want to be, always. Great hair or a ball cap. Dressed to the nines to go grocery shopping or jeans and a t-shirt to a dinner party! Who cares? You do! And you're the only one that counts :)

Do whatever it takes to be you. Live in authenticity the best you can. Be the best you can be and know that your best changes every minute, every hour and every day!  
Giving your best to yourself in your world is really all you can do!

Please don't take responsibility for how others react to you. They are simply reacting to themselves... in your presence :)

Have a beautiful best of you day!